Join in the conversation with Kate, a real ADHD mom, as she describes her relationship experiences...
I'm a bit hesitant to write on the relationship topic, but as we close in on Valentine's Day, I thought I would share some of my relationship experiences. I know I'm going to get blasted for being selfish, but I'll take a deep breath and get it over with
If you and I were on one of those speed dates, and you asked me if I'd make a good partner in a relationship, the short answer would have to be a resounding Now, if you wanted a second date with me, and we had time to dig a little deeper, here are the things I would have to disclose.
I will only worry about ME. I will only get ME through the day. It takes an incredible amount of energy for someone with ADHD to focus on what they need to do to have a semi-successful day. I will not have enough energy to worry about you too, so don't ask me where you left your keys...I don't even know whether I even took my own keys out of the ignition last night.
I fall short on promises. I have the best intentions, and will promise you the moon, but I have no follow through.
I grow bored within minutes. You can't keep my attention no matter how many times you tell me about the funny thing that happened at the office today.
You will not find my disorganization cute, funny or charming.
You will feel ignored because I will pay attention to everything else except what you are saying. I won't ever really listen to you with my full concentration. You will have to repeat yourself A LOT.
Lastly, no matter how stinkin hot it is, I will not sleep with the fan on. The noise is like fingernails on a chalkboard to me. And, no I will not care if you whine about how hot you are. I WILL NOT SLEEP WITH THE FAN ON.
And on our third date ¦wait, what? No third date?